1-2-2. THE SPIRIT SHRINE神龛
When I spend the rains retreat in Bangkok, a soldier ordained and lived with me. He told me that at home there was a spirit shrine and his parents revered it. I taught him what convention is and that ghosts don't have an essence. If you want to be afraid, it's better to be afraid of people because people are able to beat and harm you, whereas ghosts are not. If they were really good, they should be able to build their own house and find their own food, but they can't do it. Instead they are people who build a shrine for the spirits and give them food to eat, people guard over the ghosts. We're stupid to believe what our ancesters tell us.
The soldier understood and having disrobed told his parents and urged them to demolish the shrine but they wouldn't have it. One day, .a grandchild was sick, the parents figured it was because the spirits had been wronged and a pig's head should be offered. Especially the mother wouldn't listen to reason, so what can you do ? That day, when mother offered the sacrifice of the pig's head to the spirits, the son watched ; she bowed to the spirithouse many times and something, I don't know what, fell on mother's head which hurt a lot and made her scream out. The son grabbed a hammer and pounded the shrine to bits saying : 'My mother bows down and gets you a pig's head to eat, and you hit her on the head' !!! Mother didn't try to stop her son because she was in pain. So that was the end of the shrine.
The most important thing is that the mind likes to cling to things that don't have an essence.